Tom Bolls, MA LPC
John Gottman's Relationship Test
John Gottman is a famous couples therapist in Seattle. Gottman can predict the odds of divorce with 94% accuracy. Gottman and his wife are two of the primary researchers in the field, observing the behavior of over 40,000 couples in conflict over the years.
My name is Tom Bolls.
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I have been licensed in Texas
as a Professional Counselor
for over 20 years.
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I specialize in working with couples and relationships. It’s work that I enjoy, and I think that my enthusiasm and knowledge in this area can translate into a more favorable outcome for the clients that I see.
If you need help, contact me today at tombolls@yahoo.com. I can meet with you for a 30-minute free initial consultation to see if there is anything that I can do to help you through this difficult time.
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Whatever your needs, I would encourage you to seek out therapy sooner rather than later ... especially if you have a history of failed relationships. Our patterns and unconscious habits in relationships tend to calcify and harden the longer we practice them.
Do you feel criticized by your partner?
Frequent criticism can erode the foundation of a relationship.
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Is there contempt in your relationship?
Contempt, such as sarcasm or disdain, is a strong predictor of relationship problems.
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Do you feel defensive often?
Constant defensiveness can prevent constructive communication and conflict resolution.
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Is there stonewalling during conflicts?
Stonewalling, or withdrawing emotionally from interactions, can hinder problem-solving.
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Do you and your partner frequently escalate conflicts?
Escalating conflicts rather than resolving them can lead to ongoing resentment.
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Do you feel a lack of emotional connection?
A diminished emotional connection can indicate deeper issues within the relationship.
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Are you able to repair conflicts effectively?
The ability to make amends and repair conflicts is crucial for relationship health.
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Do you have positive interactions outweighing negative ones?
Healthy relationships typically have more positive than negative interactions.
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Do you feel a sense of admiration and respect from your partner?
Mutual admiration and respect are essential for a strong partnership.
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Do you feel supported by your partner in your goals and dreams?
Support for each other's aspirations fosters a sense of partnership and commitment.
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Do you and your partner have shared values and goals?
Shared values and goals can strengthen the bond and provide a sense of purpose in the relationship.
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Do you feel satisfied with the level of intimacy in your relationship?
Satisfaction with emotional, physical, and sexual intimacy is important for relationship fulfillment.